Fostering is a rewarding way to provide a stable, safe and supportive home for children who cannot live with their parents. With approximately 82,000 children in care in England and the number of foster carers falling by 12% since 2019, there is an urgent need for more people to consider fostering. One of the biggest barriers is the widespread misconceptions about what it’s really like. Sarah Griffin, a 38-year-old lawyer from London, became a foster carer through Now Foster’s Weekender programme. Here are the top five things she’s learned.
1. Lots of People Can Foster
Many people believe they aren’t eligible to foster, but the truth is that fostering is open to a wide range of people. You don’t need to be married, own your home, or have a certain job. Sarah had wanted to foster since childhood and gained experience caring for a little boy every second weekend after university. That experience showed her the transformational impact a stable adult can have. Whether you’re single, renting, or LGBTQ+, you can apply to become a foster carer.
2. Fostering Comes in Different Shapes
Fostering isn’t one-size-fits-all. Weekender fostering, for example, allows you to commit just one weekend a month for at least a year. This is ideal for people with busy careers who still want to make a difference. Other options include long-term, short-term, emergency, and respite care. Understanding the different types helps you find the right fit for your lifestyle.
3. The Approval Process Is Thorough but Supportive
The assessment process might seem daunting, but it’s designed to ensure the best outcomes for children. It involves background checks, interviews, and training. Sarah was approved by a local authority within 12 months. Support is available throughout, from social workers and fostering services. The key is to be open and honest during the process.
4. Fostering Is a Team Effort
You won’t be alone. Foster carers work closely with social workers, therapists, and other professionals. Respite care and training are provided to help you succeed. Sarah says the support network made all the difference. It’s also important to involve your family and friends, as they become part of the child’s life too.

5. The Rewards Are Immense
Despite the challenges, fostering brings incredible joy. Seeing a child thrive and knowing you played a part is deeply fulfilling. Many foster carers report improved personal growth and a sense of purpose. Sarah’s experience has been life-changing, and she encourages others to take the leap.
Key Takeaways
- Fostering is open to diverse individuals and families.
- Weekender programmes offer flexible commitment options.
- Thorough assessment ensures safety and support.
- A strong support network is essential for success.
- The emotional rewards far outweigh the challenges.
Fostering Options Compared
| Type | Commitment | Ideal For |
|---|---|---|
| Weekender | One weekend per month | Busy professionals |
| Long-term | Until child turns 18 | Stability seekers |
| Short-term | A few weeks to months | Emergency situations |
| Respite | Occasional weekends | Supporting other carers |
FAQ
Who can become a foster carer?
Almost anyone over 21 can apply, regardless of marital status, home ownership, or employment. You need a spare room and the ability to care for a child.
How long does it take to become a foster carer?
The assessment process typically takes 4-6 months, but it can vary. Sarah was approved within 12 months.
What support do foster carers receive?
Foster carers receive training, financial allowances, and access to a support network including social workers and respite care.