How often do you have sex? This question about sexual intimacy is at the heart of a new column seeking real couples to share honest bedroom stories. The Guardian’s This is How We Do It column aims to provide a counterpoint to airbrushed, exaggerated tales of sex seen in media.
We want to publish un-sensationalised interviews with real couples, especially those who have hit roadblocks in their sexual life. How do you navigate intimacy when your partner wants sex more than you do? Or after an affair? Or when you are not feeling spectacular about your body?
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Why Honest Bedroom Stories Matter
Sharing real experiences helps normalize the challenges many face. Sexual intimacy is often portrayed as perfect, but real life involves mismatched libidos, body image issues, and emotional hurdles. By telling these stories, couples can feel less alone.
Common Challenges in Sexual Relationships
- Differences in sexual desire between partners
- Rebuilding intimacy after infidelity
- Body image concerns affecting confidence
- Communication barriers about needs and boundaries
- Life stress reducing sexual frequency
Comparison of Sexual Frequency by Age Group
| Age Group | Average Sex per Month | Common Issue |
|---|---|---|
| 18-29 | 8-10 | High desire but lack of privacy |
| 30-44 | 5-7 | Work and parenting fatigue |
| 45-59 | 3-5 | Health changes and hormonal shifts |
| 60+ | 1-3 | Physical limitations and emotional connection |
Tips for Navigating Sexual Intimacy
Open communication is key. Couples who talk honestly about what they want—and don’t want—report higher satisfaction. Sexual intimacy thrives when both partners feel heard.
Consider scheduling time for intimacy, not just sex. Cuddling, massage, and non-sexual touch strengthen bonds. If you face a specific challenge, seek professional help from a therapist or sex educator.
FAQ
How often should couples have sex?
There is no “right” frequency. What matters is that both partners feel satisfied with the level of intimacy. Quality often matters more than quantity.
How can I talk to my partner about mismatched libido?
Start from a place of empathy. Use “I” statements like “I feel disconnected when we don’t have time for intimacy.” Avoid blame and focus on finding solutions together.
What if we have different ideas about what intimacy means?
Define intimacy together. It can include emotional closeness, physical touch, or shared activities. Compromise and try new ways to connect that work for both.
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